By Anusa: 987 Word
Introduction: Old age home may be defined as "A retirement home is a multi-residence housing facility intended for senior citizens". It is sometimes called an old men's home or Retirement home. Old age home is the aged men's unfortunate and unexpected destination despite delivering all fortunes and expectation of their beloved son or daughter. Old age Home is the very good success formula of today's nuclear family believer and killer results of old aged sentiments. The young generation frankly decides for exclusion of old aged methodology of joint family and advocates of old age home. Young generation feels old age people a burden. It is because the traditional values and sociability have been changed drastically in today's time. The old age group is now feeling this embarrassing blow. The aged people are spending their twilight years in isolation , pain and misery. All these collectively are responsible for old age home concept.
Few Records:The number of retirement homes has been increasing in the United States, from almost 11,000 in 2003 to 12,000 in 2010(source wikipedia). It is expected that elderly population of U.S.A in 2030 will be 19% of the population.
There are approximately 728 Old Age Homes in India (as per dadadadi.org report). Kerala has 124 old age homes which is maximum in any state. India ranks 4th in terms of size of elderly population (Kamal Raj-2011 report).
Justification: The main noticeable point is that , Is it right and justified in today's context. If it is discussed then many will raise hand in favour of this system. It is because the old age homes are increasing whole around the world. That means more and more people are getting detached from their parents. The trends are shifting from joint family to nuclear family concept at larger scale. The new generation assimilating their parents as a barrier in this competitive world. The today's system are arguing that the two age bands can not grow together. But still many people are attached to the old values and sociability and are also against the old age home and disqualifying the separation from their parents. Islam completely disqualify disintegration of parents from the family. Therefore as far as I know there is no old age home system in Islamic countries or in Muslim communities.
My Feeling: Here I would like to share my feelings for old age home's people. If I would be an old aged and If It would happen to me or if I would have been forced to stay at old age home then I would think that what ever I did for my children was unjustified. I was wrong for dying for my children's carrier and life. I would throw them at remote Home with a servant for caring. We might not remain awakened night after night for their nourishment. It would possible with money. we would reflect this close to animal activity in our past time. we would behave like our children. I think these small short memories must be narrated in front of every son and daughter. Also it is logical to tell their present future's fate if they would had been treated in same fashion as they are disposing today. These son are paving the same path as that of their parents.
Small real event- Here I am telling one real story of an old parent. It is the event of Kolkata. One boy was intelligent from his childhood. His parents were very much fortunate and also happy. The boy was loving his parents dearly. The boy became a successful one and got a good job. He got married and started leading a very good life. But slowly he loosened the bonding with his parents. He used to go to outing for having a meal for fun,but never shared this occasion with his parents. He felt him as a burden. As usual his wife was a catalyst of widening gap between the boy and his parents. He used to gossip sometime with his patents for courtesy. When he was young this gossip was occurring with sweetness of affection. The parents was feeling this. They decided to live in a old age home. They discussed this with his son and the son was ready. The parents were very sad and was realising the pain of separation. After one year the boy got a good chance of joining a good company in USA. Now the boy had become a topic of explanation for his parents. After three year his father found dead on the side of a road in Kolkata in tier of a truck. His son only got the message but could not attend the funeral of his father. Now his mother became completely alone. After two year she found also dead. Their son was in USA for earning more money but was loosing the social balance of school of home. He had become so much scientific that he couldn't feel the urgency of attending the last moment of his parents. This real story giving the clear message of changing values of today's life and sociability. This value does not remain human in spiritual sense. As far as I know the parents must be sensed with the value of religion not with the theory of scientific way of living. This real story is signalling hard message to rethink once again about the changing pattern of young generation.
Conclusion: I conclude that the becoming older and existence of younger one is cyclic biological process. No one can get rid of these two state of life. Old age people needs care, love and healthy emotional family sharing for satisfaction. New one needs growth and success in today's competitive world. These two objectives are to be strategically balanced. The parents is to be given high priority over everything. They should be included in the family running process so that they could feel themselves not ignored.